[tenkodraxon]

Not to be that guy, but saying “I hate all men, including trans men because I’m not transphobic.”, doesn’t make you less hateful. Nor does it make you less transphobic.

You’re essentially saying “if you choose to express yourself in the way that makes you most comfortable, I am going to hate you. I hate you for a core part of your being that has very little to do with whether or not you are actually deserving of hate.”

Discouraging trans men from actually being men because they do not wish for you to hate them, is transandrophobia.

Being a man and/or being masculine is not inherently evil, nor is it worthy of hate. Men are not a monolith and treating them like they are is only pushing them into the “well, you hate me so why should I help you?” camp.

Anonymous asked:

Answering your question in this post: https://www.tumblr.com/genderkoolaid/725011418157563904/i-didnt-say-that-experiencing-violence-was-a?

No, a trans woman being perceived as a woman wouldn't be privilege because being a woman is not a privilege. Being perceived as a man is a privilege, regardless of what comes along with that. This is basic feminism, men are in control of the patriarchy and women are oppressed by it

genderkoolaid answered:

I mean. for one, the original claim was:

“It is a good thing that they saw him as his true gender. Most trans women can’t experience that. That’s literally your friend experiencing male privilege, he is seen as the gender he says he is and that gender is male”

“I didn’t say that experiencing violence was a privilege, I said that being perceived as the gender he is was a privilege”

The main disgusting thing about this is that a Black man is experiencing police violence because of the intersection of his race and gender, and you (I assume you are the same anon) said that him being correctly gendered by the police who want to kill him for being a Black man is a good thing because his gender is being affirmed.

The rest of this is just bog-standard shitty cis-white feminism. Its not intersectional to act like a Black man’s race can be separated from his gender, especially when many Black trans men have talked about experiencing an increase of violence after transitioning. This is not a side-note on Black men’s gender, its an integral fucking part of it. “Men control the patriarchy” is an obviously cissexist way of looking at it when you consider that trans men do not and literally have never been the ones with social power. Fuck off

[Also: “being perceived as a man is a privilege, regardless of what comes along with that” so following this statement, closeted trans women are privileged and there’s absolutely no nuance to anything else oppressive that they experience as a result of their gender because the most important thing is that they are perceived as a cis man in any context?]

[brakshow]

I think Americans in general should maybe start taking xenophobia more seriously. Because with the. Everything going on in the world right now. It's gotten really really bad. And while lefties might not be reactionary to the same extent as republicans it's still very much prevalent. I went to dinner with my family recently and the stuff they said about my cousin's family who emigrated from Russia made me feel like I was losing my mind. He's 2 years old. How are you going to discriminate against a baby with a clear conscience. Then you read the news and it's like "China is spying on you with TikTok and weather balloons" and you hear people on all angles of the political compass repeat it. Are you hearing yourself right now. Are you for real

[getonthebeers]

This, but the entire Western world. You are not immune because you're from Australia or Canada or France or wherever the fuck, this is not an American problem this is a problem of the Western world in general you do not get a pass just because you're not American.

[yanwangdijunfensi]

you call these ppl out for their xenophobia but the thing is these days, if you’re not using blatant racial slurs against russians or chinese ppl or physically assaulting them, it’s not considered xenophobia by a lot of ppl. Russophobia and sinophobia have become so normalized and ingrained in the western perspective just in the last decade that saying shit like “china steals” or “russian meddling” is like saying trees are green. Like what do you mean, i’m just stating a fact about their society/government/culture/etc, that’s how they are, how is that xenophobia, are you a russia/china bootlicker, etc etc etc

[transwolvie]

Too many people are forgetting these things too quickly:

-SESTA/FOSTA passed. Despite the many, many warnings of sex workers.

-A bunch of apps started their censorship policies because Apple directly threatened their revenue if they didn't promise to cut down on the amount of porn on their sites

-MasterCard and VISA tried to outright stop processing OnlyFans work SPECIFICALLY because of the association with sex work, and no other feasible financial reason.

There is not a sudden regressive movement among individual people. Free The Nipple didn't fade into obscurity because people didn't care. It was stopped. By policies. By laws. By arrests. By censorship. These things have been purposefully put in place by companies and politicians. They saw the work we were trying to do wrt bodily autonomy, sexual liberation, and sexual freedom, and they forcibly put a stop to it.

[cummunismmm]

Fundamental life advice: never trust a product from a youtuber/influencer sponsorship

[cummunismmm]

• Raycons - overpriced repackaged cheap bullshit
• Hello fresh - last years workers were on strike for shitty work conditions and there’s reports of union busting. Never have i seen a youtuber acknowledge this at all
• Adam and Eve - the dildos aren’t all from body safe materials. Don’t risk it with cheap dildos it can fuck your body up
• Audible - owned by amazon
• Idk which one but one of the vpn ones mined bitcoin from ur computer and they’re useful but generally falsely advertised, not a big tech person but this guy talks about it
• All the fit teas and shakes etc are bullshit that just makes you poop and loose water weight short term
• Raid shadow legends - lol do i even need to explain this one
• All the loot crates - filled with cheap junk they’re getting wholesale
• The online coupon thingies are a data harvesting scam. Just google the shop name + coupon when shopping
• The online therapy better help was a whole big controversy and i still see this shitty company being promoted

Idk maybe the learning platform ones are the exception but i never looked into them

[highly--distractible]

Adding on to this.
Skillshare is hard to cancel. There’s a slight chance this has changed but when I looked into subscribing, there was a lot of people complaining about having to email the company multiple times to cancel.

Since Squarespace is templets, they legally own whatever you make. If you decide to change providers, you can’t take it with you. You’re stuck with them forever or have to rebuild your website from the ground up. You at least own the domain name so there’s that, but for me it’s not worth the work if I have to restart should I ever decide I hate the company.

I want more people to know this because every time I’ve looked into something advertised by youtubers, it’s never been good.

[twofingerswhiskey]

Tokyo Treat and that other connected one will renew your subscription without letting you know. They also use DHL - common for stuff from Japan, but they'll charge you out the ass for it and demand slips and stuff. I didn't get it myself - I read mixed reviews on it in the comments of a few videos I watch that get sponsored by it.

It is a legit service that is apparently quite good for what they deliver, it does what it says it does, but the hidden fees and sketchy re-subscription tactics are a no from me.

Also, Temu's Lenovo earbuds - I got them as part of a promo when ordering from them, to test out their product quality. They're advertising this shit everywhere. It's marketed as "Lenovo is a big brand, internationally known, they wouldn't make crap" - and I agree, it's perfectly serviceable. A bit hollow and gutless, but it's earbuds, literally every wireless pair that isn't a few hundred dollars sounds like that nowadays - the sound is nearly identical to the $50 ones I got my dad (and consequently got regifted back to me because he doesn't like earbuds). The problem is that they are prone to fucking exploding and catching on fire. This can be fixed by cracking them open and carefully replacing the faulty batteries, but, y'know. Don't use them if you get them as a little welcome promo. Don't use Temu. They are as bad as Shein. I did get what I ordered - cat toys that are completely fine - but I deleted the app after that. It also slowed down my brand new Samsung S23 Ultra, a top of the line brand-new phone, because it would fucking run in the background. Gross.

[pnkrathian]

[808-bantar]

thousands have been slaughtered

[tired-fandom-ndn]

I am going to say this as gently as possible, but people do not get a warning when your header is seizure- or migraine-inducing. We don't know that your blog has a flashing gif right at the top until we click on it for whatever reason. There is no way to be aware of that ahead of time, no way to filter or block or hide it, no way to prepare ourselves.

Like when you put something like that in a completely unavoidable part of your blog, the very first thing that people are going to see when they clock your URL, then you are actively choosing to put disabled people in danger. I know that's not anyone's intention, but this shit isn't a joke. I cannot stand up right now. The combination of eye strain and flashing gifs that people cover their blogs and carrds with have fucked me up so badly that I have been thrown into such a bad migraine attack that I am too weak to stand. There is a very good chance that I'm going to throw up.

So just like. Be aware of how those things are affecting people who visit your blog. Please.

[captain-lovelace]

weird that we treat autism and ADHD as intrinsically linked due to high rates of comorbidity but no one talks that way about autism and schizophrenia or autism and OCD or autism and bipolar disorder etc etc even though those are also often comorbid. gee I wonder why

[captain-lovelace]

Reblogging this every time I see someone on my post about how autism and ADHD aren’t the only neurodivergent experiences say that we need an umbrella term for autism and ADHD specifically, as if they have everything in common with each other and nothing with any other types of neurodivergence

Anonymous asked:

It is a good thing that they saw him as his true gender. Most trans women can’t experience that. That’s literally your friend experiencing male privilege, he is seen as the gender he says he is and that gender is male

spacelazarwolf answered:

i……….. genuinely don’t even know what to say anymore.

for context, this is in reference to a response to an ask where i mentioned my friend, who is black trans man, being told that he should consider it “affirming” to experience more police surveillance and violence. i seriously cannot fucking wrap my brain around how utterly disconnected from the real world you have to be to assert that a black person experiencing more police violence is not only good but privilege?????? like. how do we come back from this? how in the world are we supposed to redirect discourse that has gone this far off track? i am genuinely at a loss here.

[gutsygremlin]

I hate hate hate hate HATE that most of the time when I’m searching for info on autism the results always regard autistic children and are written by allistic adults for allistic parents who hate autistic children

Like I’m just going “hehe hey google do other autistic people sensory seek in carbonated drinks” and Google is like “DUMB STUPID LITTLE AUTISTIC BABIES REALLY LIKE DRINKING DUMB STUPID LITTLE AUTISTIC DRINKS LIKE SPRITE AND COKE BECAUSE THEY’RE DUMB STUPID LITTLE AUTISTIC BABIES!!!!!”

Best friend. The autistic kids you’re writing about so unkindly are going to become adults. And they’re going to be unhappy when they read that shit.